Something feels stuck. Something won’t let go. There’s a reason.

A different kind of attention

You don't need to arrive with the right words, or already know what this is about. Most people don't. Something keeps happening, or something hasn't moved – that's enough to start with.

Often the thing that matters is something easy to move past – a word you almost didn’t say, a feeling you named and explained away in the same breath.

Most of what happens in a session happens because we don’t move past it. We stay with it a little longer than usual, and sometimes what seemed settled turns out not to be.

In couples work, an argument can stop being something to win or recover from, and become something you’re both looking at together – including what it stirs in each of you, not just what was said.

Nothing here is about explaining things better. It's about what happens when something no longer has to be pushed away, managed, or carried on your own.

Often, that’s when things no longer have quite the same hold on you.