How the Process Unfolds
A clear, steady structure for working together
A transparent, predictable process
This page outlines the practical structure of how we work together – from the first conversation to ongoing sessions and how the work develops over time.
The goal is simple: clarity. You should know what to expect, how the sessions unfold, and how the process adapts to your relationship.
While this page focuses on couples work, I also work individually with clients following a similar structure, adapted to personal needs.
An overview of the steps
The work begins with an orientation call, followed by a brief assessment period and then regular sessions. Each part has a clear purpose, and together they create a steady path forward.
- Orientation Call – a brief first conversation
- Initial Assessment – joint and individual meetings
- Working Sessions – guided practice and real conversations
- Review and Continuity – adjusting rhythm as progress develops
What follows below describes each step in more detail.
How we begin
The early steps are structured and predictable. They help us understand your relationship clearly before moving into deeper work.
- Orientation Call (20 minutes, online): A brief conversation to understand what you're looking for and whether the approach is a good fit.
- First Full Session (Joint): We clarify your goals, the context of what brings you here, and the strengths and challenges you’re navigating.
- Questionnaires: Short, research-based forms completed at home to map communication, conflict patterns, and areas of connection.
- Individual Meetings: One session with each partner to understand personal perspectives in a calm, respectful pace.
- Feedback Session: A joint meeting where we outline the key themes and decide together on the direction for the work.
This beginning phase creates a shared understanding – a practical starting point for the sessions that follow.
What ongoing sessions look like
Once we have a clear starting point, the work turns toward practice. Sessions are steady, structured, and focused on real interactions rather than abstractions.
- slowing down moments that usually move too quickly
- learning to navigate difficult conversations with more clarity
- recognizing early signs of escalation or withdrawal
- practising repair in ways that feel genuine and workable
- strengthening moments of connection in everyday life
Alongside relational tools, we also pay attention to your internal responses – the reactions, interpretations, and protections that shape how you show up with each other.
The aim is not perfection, but a clearer, more grounded way of relating that you can use outside the sessions.
Frequency and duration
Most couples meet weekly or biweekly at first. As things become steadier, sessions often space out naturally.
Couples sessions are 90 minutes. Individual sessions are 60 minutes.
Some couples choose occasional check-ins after the main work is complete, especially during transitions or periods of change.
Concluding or pausing the work
Toward the end of the work, we review progress together and discuss what rhythm makes sense going forward.
Some couples pause with clarity, others continue at a lighter pace, and some return periodically when new challenges appear. The intention is simply to support what helps your relationship continue in a steady direction.
Frequently Asked Questions
How the sessions work
›What’s the Orientation Call for?
A brief 20-minute online meeting to understand what you’re looking for and whether the approach fits. There’s no commitment to continue.
›Where do sessions take place?
Most clients meet online. Couples and individuals who prefer in-person work are welcome to meet in my practice space in Motril. Select home visits are available for established clients by private arrangement.
›How long are sessions?
Couples sessions are 90 minutes. Individual sessions are 60 minutes.
›How do online sessions work?
You’ll receive a secure video link after booking – no installation needed. Many clients choose online work for its continuity, especially when living or travelling between places.
›What does it cost and when is payment taken?
All current fees are shown directly in the booking calendar. Payment is taken at the time of booking.
›Can we reschedule or cancel?
Changes are free up to 24 hours in advance. Within 24 hours, the session is non-refundable as that time is reserved for you.
›Do you offer home visits?
Occasionally – for established clients and when appropriate. These are arranged privately.
Readiness & Fit
›What if one of us is unsure about starting?
It’s common for partners to feel ready at different times. The Orientation Call is low-pressure and simply helps you understand what working together might look like.
›When might this not be the right fit?
Situations involving domestic violence, acute crisis, or severe addiction may require more specialized support. If that seems relevant, I’ll help you find the right resources.
›Do you work with LGBTQ+ couples?
Yes. LGBTQ+ and gender-diverse couples are fully welcomed. The work is tailored to your relationship, without assumptions about structure or roles.
›Do you work with international or long-distance couples?
Yes. Many clients live between countries or travel regularly. Online sessions allow the work to continue steadily wherever you are.
›Do you offer reduced rates?
Occasionally, for clients who need support but cannot meet the full fee. These places are limited and offered at my discretion. Feel free to ask during the Orientation Call.
Confidentiality
›How is confidentiality handled?
Sessions are confidential within standard professional ethics. I don’t record sessions or store notes in cloud services. If confidentiality between partners becomes a question – for example, in situations involving hidden information that affects trust – I address it directly and clearly.
How to begin
The first step is a brief online conversation – about 20 minutes to talk, ask questions, and see whether the approach feels right for you.